Many couples in today’s society decide to get married after they have been living together for some time. Our cultural ideas suggest to them that a good way to insure a happy marriage is to live together for a while, so they can see what it’s like to live with the other person. That is really not an accurate reference point, it’s really a misconception. Before we get into the best reasons for marriage, let’s look at the top reasons people get married.
The top two reasons for marriage are sexual fulfillment and money, or perhaps a combination of the two. If two people are living together without first being married they are most likely already involved in sexual relations. The premise of getting to know one another is already misconstrued by their personal self indulgence. Their judgment is already clouded by emotions and lustful physical desires. The values in their relationship are skewed and the foundation from which they are using the relationship is faulty. Too many people, both women and men focus on sexual gratification, for many couples that is initially the key to their happiness. Later in the relationship that will also be the key to their unhappiness.
Many women are raised up with the idea that they should pursue a relationship with a man who has lots of money. Apparently the idea there is to have some financial security. Well if financial security is utmost on someone’s agenda, then they could simply get a good education and seek a high paying profession, unless of course they are lazy. Lots of people want the easy life, but the easy life is not so easy, and it’s certainly not fulfilling. Getting married to money is a faulty premise for relationship, it will only open the door to much heartache. One can acquire materialism with wealth, but one can not acquire love with money. Many men will attempt to put on a show and deceive women into believing that they have money just to attract women towards them, like that of a philanderer. Then there are the men who have opulence and use it to influence women, either way the premise is on the same defective fundament.
Relationships are far deeper than concupiscence or the acquisition of philistinism. The reasons for marriage should embellish togetherness and the feelings of enrichment, encompass genuine caring for each other, and have the desire to externally express love to one another in true companionship. Marriage should be a multifaceted sharing of devoted friendship and love at a level of cohesion. Marriage joins a man and a women in a physical, emotional, and spiritual bond, in the union of the body, mind, and soul. "Consequently they are no longer two, but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let no man separate." Matthew 19:6
Two are better than one because they have a good return for their labor. For if either of them falls, the one will lift up his companion. But woe to the one who falls when there is not another to lift him up. Furthermore, if two lie down together they keep warm, but how can one be warm alone? And if one can overpower him who is alone, two can resist him. A cord of three strands is not quickly torn apart. Ecclesiastes 4:9-12