Do you find yourself worrying about everything in your relationships? Worry is defined as disturbing the peace of mind of; or to afflict with mental agitation or distress. When you worry in relationships, or worry about everything in your daily lives, you are in a continuous pattern of ineffective thought. Worrying will not bring you to resolution, therefore you can not obtain conclusion. Worrying is unresolved thought that leaves you unproductive. If you ever watched a dog chasing it’s tail, then you can understand how worry is like an endless cycle.
Most people worry about money from time to time. They worry about making their mortgage payment, worry about making the car payment, worry about having enough money for food, or they may be worried about paying some other bills or having enough money for their children’s needs. We are human, we have real concerns, especially during times of economic adversity. The point here is that worrying will not bring you a single token of resolve, it’s fruitless. Take a moment and look at a US dollar bill, what does it say? We worry about money, and yet even our money tells us where to put our trust.
Worrying can be associated with your desire to be in control. Most people settle down some when they believe that they have obtained some sense control and are not dependant upon others being in control. For instance, when they have obtained money that will temporarily resolve some financial issues. Now with the money in their hands they feel like they have some control, (at least until next month). For whatever reasons, they are unable to trust, or to rest in a place of faith. However, they do not worry about whether or not the sun will come up in the morning, because the sun is assumed to do that in an endless cycle. No man has control over the sun, and yet we all seem to be able to rest in it’s ability to rise again. The desire to be in control will cause you to worry, it’s when you relinquish your desire to be in control that your worry will subside.
The worrying thought cycle can be associated, (to some degree), to a computer. Have you ever watched the red hard drive light on a computer flashing a hundred miles an hour while a computer is trying to resolve something? You know when the computer is not functioning properly, it is failing to boot up, or seems to be stuck in a endless mode of repetition? The mouse does not move, the screen is frozen, and yet that little red hard drive light just keeps right on flickering! In many cases, it is because the computer is unable to obtain the information it is seeking. It is missing something, so it just continues the same redundant search pattern! Round and round it goes, but the secret is in the middle and knows. It’s like the computer itself has come to a place of emotional stuckness, the red light is now outwardly flashing SOS signs! Have you ever been on the worry go round?
Many worried people go to the airport, hop on a plane, and put their trust in pilots that they do not know from Adam. What’s up with that? They can’t see the pilots faces, they never had personally evaluated their abilities to fly, and yet they have just handed over their lives to these people, in this big piece of metal that is propelled by gas powered motors. So if they can do that, what is stopping them from handing over their need for control to God? Could it be their own pride? Do they lack assurance in the goodness of God? The one that formed them in the darkness of their mother’s womb is somehow not trusted to take care of them? The one that formed the intricate galaxy and gave them their very breath is not trusted?
When you are worrying you are being shown something! You are being shown that ultimately you are not in control. You are out of control because you are not connected, (at least in that moment), in faith. You can only be in control of yourself, and your thought patterns, when you have given up your desire for control to God. When you have put your faith and your trust in Him, (just like it says on the dollar bill). You can keep holding on to what you can not obtain, or you can let go of the unobtainable and put your trust in God. The worry war is within, your worrying will cease, when your faith is increased.
Look what Jesus says to us worry warts in Matthew 6:27; Who of you by worrying can add a single hour to his life? Rather than continuously worrying about everything, just ponder that question, for it will reveal an answer to you, it will not run in a circle of thought with no ending. In the very next scripture, Matthew 6:28, Jesus is is telling us to take notice of the ways that the lilies grow and he makes the statement; "they do not toil, nor do they spin." Toil in this case, when coupled with the word spin, is being associated to the heavy worrying going on in our minds, because worry just cycles over and over again. Now in Matthew 6:32 Jesus says; "for your heavenly Father knows that you need all these things." Jesus is pointing the way to worry resolution, which is God, by putting your faith and trust in God. Just as He says in the next scripture, Matthew 6:33; But seek first His kingdom and His righteousness; and all these things shall be added to you. To be free from worry you are first going to need to relinquish your desire for control, that is assuming that your own pride is not the source of your inner blockade.
In Proverbs 13:12 it says; Hope deferred makes the heart sick, But a longing fulfilled is the tree of life. The question you may need to pose to yourself is; Are you deferring your own hope because you will not release your desire to be in control? If so, then perhaps it is your pride that is blocking your need for hope, which in turn is causing your worrying. In Acts 12:6 it says; That very night, before Herod was going to bring him out, Peter, bound with two chains, was sleeping between two soldiers, and guards in front of the door were watching the prisoners. How do you suppose Peter was able to attain such of place of peace in his mind that enabled him to sleep? He must have been free of worry and fear? We dance around in a ring and suppose, but the secret sits in the middle and knows. "Do not let your hearts be troubled. Trust in God; trust also in me. John 14:1
Indeed, even the hairs on your head have all been counted! So stop being afraid. You are worth more than a bunch of sparrows." Matthew 10:30-31
Never worry about anything. But in every situation let God know what you need in prayers and requests while giving thanks. Then God’s peace, which goes beyond anything we can imagine, will guard your thoughts and emotions through Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:6-7