Do you think that sometimes you may be overly sensitive due to your feelings? Do you think that how you feel is associated to your overall feeling of significance, of how, or if you feel loved? Do you feel loved, valued, and able to openly receive love? Do you feel like your perception of things, to include your feelings, may be a little hazy? Do you ever ask somebody else if you are being over sensitive, due to your feelings? Sure, it happens to everybody, we are not emotionless beings, we all have feelings.
Sometimes we have to go through some emotional stuff in order to gain some understanding about ourselves and how we feel within us. It is only then that we become clear about our feelings and begin to gain some understanding about them. It is also at that point where we may gain clarity about some of our own misconceptions. As an example, I would like to point out how a guy on the biggest loser recently gained realization about his own inner judgments, and how they were impeding him. This is not a negative thing, it is quite positive, and I applaud the gentleman's honesty about it.
As you may know, the biggest loser is about some people working to shed some weight from their bodies in a competition atmosphere. The issue that comes to light for this gentleman, is actually some emotional weight that he has been carrying around for years, something we all do. Apparently he had a notation inside himself that told him that he did not matter, that he was not significant or loved, specifically by his mother. The issue was not his mother, the issue was how he felt about himself. His feelings toward himself said that he was not worthy, thus he did not feel loved. It was his own inner blockage impeding and constricting him. He realized this on the show, stating that his mother was always trying to help him, that she cared about him, and was trying to help him with his weight issue. But all along he took it in a degrading fashion, as if he was being demeaned and degraded. Clearly, it was a misconception solely based upon the way he perceived himself. So he was being over sensitive about his inward issue and his mother's intentions. Inside of him were feelings of inadequacy and unworthiness which manifested in his relationship with his mother. He was wrong about her loving intentions, (one could only imagine how this may have strained the emotions in their relationship). Here is the thing, he realizes it now, he is being honest with himself, he is becoming free of his own inner blockage, which will probably help him in many other ways yet to come.
How you feel about yourself is a prerequisite as to how you think others feel about you. Do you feel loved? If you say no to this question, perhaps it's time to ask yourself why that is. Your personal self value will effect how you behave and react to and around others. It is important for you to realize that you do not necessarily need the affirmation or approval of people to be valuable, or to live a meaningful life. The affirmation that so many people are looking for is literally in them. You would feel loved if you knew where you came from. You were created because God loved you and wanted to have a relationship with you. Your affirmation is in the fact of your existence. Psalm 139:13-14 says; You made all the delicate, inner parts of my body and knit me together in my mother’s womb. Thank you for making me so wonderfully complex! Your workmanship is marvelous —how well I know it. You are loved, the evidence is you, your body knows it, but you may have been lacking that understanding, or otherwise rejecting it to your own demise. If you have been rejecting it, you may need to peak under some of your emotional layers in order to gain some personal clarity.
How you feel about yourself will drastically effect your relationships. You may react to something or someone in manners that are inappropriate simply because you do not feel adequate about yourself. You might say things like, I don't feel loved in my marriage. You could be going around all the time fishing for inflationary comments to boost your ego temporarily. However, that which is inflated will become deflated, as hot air balloons do not stay suspended. And unfortunately for some, they make so much value out of what other people say about them that they end up believing all the wrong things. Proverbs 29:25 says; It is dangerous to be concerned with what others think of you, but if you trust the Lord, you are safe. It is also important to be on one's guard against flattery, some people will tell you what you want to hear for their own immoral motivations. A lying tongue hates those it crushes, and a flattering mouth causes ruin. —Proverbs 26:28
Can you see where how you feel about yourself significantly impacts your own relationships? Have you given some thought about how you react to comments from others? Perhaps how your feelings or notations about yourself actually cause conflicts? There are many people who go around pointing fingers of blame at others for their own inner constraints. There are those who become hurt, or have more emotional pain, because they block love, and thus don't feel loved due to their own underlying blockages. There are women who say I don't feel loved by my husband, primarily because they are not open to the love. (This is not to say that some women are not loved, there are some husbands who are simply not sensitive to that need). The next time you think someone is saying something negative, take a moment to ask yourself if it is negative or if it's a lacking feeling you have on the inside. Process your pain before it processes unnecessary problems in your relationship. Make every attempt to avoid allowing your inner stuff to become relational disturbances. One more thing, the next time you don't feel loved, look up! And then do yourself a favor and click here.