The romantics want to say that it was love at first sight. However with some exceptions, it is generally attraction at first sight or infatuation at first sight. It is possible for love to grow between 2 people who spend time associating with each other, without actually seeing each other in person. You can get to know someone and experience feelings for them without seeing them first. So in that scenario, it is possible that it was love at first sight, and there may be other love at first sight possibilities.
There may be those who may claim that they were soul mates at first sight. Well, with God all things are possible, and Jesus said in Matthew 19:4-6; He answered them, "Haven’t you read that the one who made them at the beginning ‘made them male and female’ and said, ‘That is why a man will leave his father and mother and be united with his wife, and the two will become one flesh’? So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore, what God has joined together, man must never separate." God is always working in our lives and He can bring two people together. But just because you are attracted to someone, does not mean that they are your love at first sight. And, even if God does bring two people together, it does not mean that they fell in love at first sight. God can bring two people together, but there is generally a relational growth period of some kind. So if a couple says that God brought them together, that is certainly quite believable.
Sometimes those romantic love at first sight wishes are hampered by attraction at first sight. Attraction can lead to heightened interest, excitement, and to emotional arousal. Sometimes the desires of men and women overtake their judgment abilities. Men and women are far too often looking for exterior physical looks and they miss the true inner beauty. Just because you find someone attractive does not mean that you have fallen in love with them. You may be mentally or emotionally aroused do to a physical attraction, however that does not mean that it was love at first sight. Often times men and women are in such a rush to find their soul mates, that they take the first thing that comes along, and they miss the person that God was trying to connect them with. For all that is in the world, the lust of the flesh and the lust of the eyes and the boastful pride of life, is not from the Father, but is from the world. 1 John 2:16
There are times when men or women miss what God has for them because their expectations are too high or because they do not feel worthy for some reason. Just because someone does not appear to line up to be your perfect woman or make your perfect man list, does not mean that they are not perfect for you. God knows you better than you know yourself and he knows who would be the best match for you. Have you ever had someone tell you what their soul mate should be like? They were so finicky, so picky, that they would miss their best love at first sight opportunity because a guy was only 1 inch taller than them, or because a woman wore her hair up. Have you ever heard a woman say, he has to be like this, he must be like that, he must like to do this, he must like to do that? I do not think they have a drive thru where Barbie can make such a detailed creation of Ken, maybe they could do it with play doh though. Finding the right person for you, begins with you being the right person. Charm is deceitful and beauty is vain, But a woman who fears the LORD, she shall be praised. Proverbs 31:30
Sometimes people block out their best love at first sight opportunities because of previous experiences. I once listened to a story about an African American woman who had totally blocked out all African American men due to her past relationships, she had labeled them all unworthy because of her own pain. Too often people label others by race or culture and do not realize that the issue is within them. At first sight, they walk away from the person who may have been their intended soul mate without even getting to know them. How many times have you heard the slogan; you can’t read a book by its cover?
Our cultures and the societies we live in know far more about sex, than about love. Many people who say it was love at first sight, had sex that first night. It was sexual attraction at first sight, they let there hormones control them at first sight, they let their emotions think for them at first sight, and too many women give themselves away at first sight. A month later they are saying that it was love at first sight, when it reality it was lust at first sight. Too many people refer to sex as making love, when the sex is purely lust driven. After making the claim that it was love at first sight, months or years later, they have separated or divorced because it was never love to begin with. What your corrupt nature wants is contrary to what your spiritual nature wants, and what your spiritual nature wants is contrary to what your corrupt nature wants. They are opposed to each other. As a result, you don’t always do what you intend to do. Galatians 5:17
The longest journeys you will ever take will be between your own heart and your own mind. You experience feelings and those emotions are real, but they may not reflect reality. We all must learn how to control our emotions, and not allow our feelings to do our thinking for us, because our own emotions will deceive us. The heart is perverse above all things, and unsearchable, who can know it? Jeremiah 17:9
I hope that this love at first sight article has not totally popped your romantic thought bubbles. You can experience a divine connection at first sight, you could call that soul attraction at first sight if you wish. God does bring couples together, who establish relationships, and go on to get married; enjoying life long matrimony. When you first meet someone and have that love at first sight thought, first get to know them before assuming that your emotions know more than your mind does. Whoever trusts his own heart is a fool. Whoever walks in wisdom will survive. Proverbs 28:26