Change the way you are thinking and you will drastically change your outcomes.
Most of what we say or do begin with our thinking processes in our brains. Our decisions and choices are generally made within our minds, with the exception of the times when we allow our emotions to do the thinking. How we think determines our overall demeanor and behavior. Our perceptions and thought mannerisms not only effect us, but others as well. All to often we allow the psychological results of perception, learning, and reasoning to be clouded by unhealthy thought patterns. People often become tranced out on the 10 percent of things that they think are going poorly in their lives and they completely loose site of the 90 percent that’s going great.
We need to recognize and understand that the information we store up in our brains is going to be what we access at any given time. If we do not seek out wisdom, for the purposes of gaining understanding, we are not going to be prepared to respond adequately to the situations we are faced with. Consider your computer, it stores up much data and information, it then accesses that information on a needed basis. However, if it does not have the correct information, it will have difficulty processing the requested data. You might need to consider the things that you are storing in your database for future access. If the knowledge that you are gathering is corrupt, it’s going to be of no use to you. Think about that while you are watching television, about the content of the books you are reading, and then consider seeking out sound healthy context to collect for your knowledge reservoir.
The way you think is very important, in life we often accept our initial perception of something without looking into it’s depths. We accept what we see on the surface for what it appears to be and never consider the mental boundary we have just created for ourselves. Underneath the surfaces there are greater realms of possibility. Often times we focus on things that appear to be falling apart and our typical mental reactions or emotional responses are that things are decreasing. We may very well be missing the fact that the breaking is not a diminishing, but a spreading out of multiplication. Take a piece of bread and break it in two, give one piece to a friend, what are you now lacking? Nothing! The breaking is an expanding, not a diminishing. The more it is broken off, the greater it’s increase, the more potential for growth it has, which then leads to a more significant harvest. When we prune a plant or a tree back it appears to be lacking, but then it fills those voids with new growth, which is multiplied, and the ending outcome is far more fulfilling. The initial pruning may appear to be a diminishing, but given a little time healthy increase prevails.
How you train your mind will greatly effect your responses to all situations, it will also improve your ability to handle stress. Mindlessness will only leave you open to anxiety, doubts, frustrations, and fears that will only leave you with poor emotional responses. Too often people accept defeat far too easily because they are not looking deeper into their own perceptions. They look at issues on top and perceive themselves as being overcome. They decide in their minds that they have been beaten, or that they have in some way lost something. Whatever appears to have ended has only just begun. You can not read a book by it’s cover, do not allow appearances to deceive you or your thought processes. What does all this have to do with love and relationships? Change the way you’re thinking and you will drastically change your outcomes. Get adequate insight, seek wisdom, gain understanding. Embed wisdom and healthy thoughts into your thinking processes repeatedly so that you will remember them in your time of need.
…be made new in the attitude of your minds. Ephesians 4:24
Do not conform any longer to the patterns of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind… Romans12:2
Do not forsake wisdom, and she will protect you; love her, and she will watch over you. Proverbs 4:6
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